This is Not Love
12 X 12 Watercolor29 total reviews
Comment from jesuel
thats is very true my sister used to get the crap beat out of her by her boyfriend when i learned of it i went to stomp a mudhole in his ass and he ran from hid i never could catch him but the good news she got out of it and got married to a good man they have been married for 20 years and still going this is a powerfull piece of art maybe someone will see it and it will help them beautiful work here
reply by the author on 31-Oct-2019
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thats is very true my sister used to get the crap beat out of her by her boyfriend when i learned of it i went to stomp a mudhole in his ass and he ran from hid i never could catch him but the good news she got out of it and got married to a good man they have been married for 20 years and still going this is a powerfull piece of art maybe someone will see it and it will help them beautiful work here
Comment Written 30-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 31-Oct-2019
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Good for you. My brothers would have done the same for me. She is a composite of the domestic violence situations I handled while on the police force. So many women refuse to get out. Thank you for your review.
Comment from Len Shood
Looked at this long and hard Linda. No doubt it's and excellent painting, but, there's a lot more in here.
Far more effective on many levels than a photograph of the same subject and very well and tastefully executed.
Well done.
reply by the author on 31-Oct-2019
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Looked at this long and hard Linda. No doubt it's and excellent painting, but, there's a lot more in here.
Far more effective on many levels than a photograph of the same subject and very well and tastefully executed.
Well done.
Comment Written 30-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 31-Oct-2019
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Thank you very much, Len. It is a difficult subject no one wants to talk about. It?s worse when it is a child.
Comment from Charlie Newman
Your watercolor painting portrays this all too frequent crime against women very accurately. The look in this lady's eyes shows the raw emotion of fear and also the sends a message of entrapment and no escape. I also like the dark background as it sets the tone. I sense that this painting came from deep within you and is filled with emotional memories. Very raw.
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2019
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Your watercolor painting portrays this all too frequent crime against women very accurately. The look in this lady's eyes shows the raw emotion of fear and also the sends a message of entrapment and no escape. I also like the dark background as it sets the tone. I sense that this painting came from deep within you and is filled with emotional memories. Very raw.
Comment Written 26-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2019
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Thank you so very much.
Comment from Kelly Kiley
Wow! this is a super kool idea for this contest.. hopefully, it will help awareness for this abuse.. great entry for this contest! you are very talented. you do faces so very well. please keep them coming! wish you the best of luck in this contest!
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2019
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Wow! this is a super kool idea for this contest.. hopefully, it will help awareness for this abuse.. great entry for this contest! you are very talented. you do faces so very well. please keep them coming! wish you the best of luck in this contest!
Comment Written 26-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2019
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Thanks a million Kelly.
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your welcome!!
Comment from MKFlood
it's not just the beating. its the constant verbal of disgust and belittling. they like to get up into your face while you plead and they mock you while still hitting you. it doesn't take them much set them off. they like to take objects like a knife, gun or even a bat and use them with a threat just to get off over your facial reaction. funny after its over you get that "im sorry! i promise not to do it again!" of course you know its a lie and all you want to do is just get away. hide in a room or a closet or a hole in the ground. anywhere where you can so can have peace and no more pain. you start to believe that you are what you are called during those beatings. there is no peace in your life and death does look like a good option. now how would know all this? yes majority of abuse cases are done by men towards women. nobody ever thinks of women doing the same to their children. except when they are caught. that woman would blame someone or something else that made them do it. the child would be in so much shock to only communicate what it can. a very small portion of the story. there is no horror movie that can really translate the terror of what that child goes thru. if this happened in the 1960's law enforcement would look more to the male of the house than the female. that woman was my birth mother and child was of course me. gratefully when she did her final beating of me with a softball baseball bat there was witnesses. the courts saved me and awarded me to my great uncle(a marine). took him 10 years to make a human being. i spent the 1st couple years having nightmares of that woman chasing me with that basball bat. i swore that my chidren would never know that horror or would starve and would have a safe place to live. i do invite you to view something here on FAR. do a title search for "cold". it represented me in those hell years. funny how us abuse kids can recognize and find a lil warmth with each other. sorry for this reaction and spousal abuse should always be address but sometimes folks seem to forget what a mother can do to her children. im close with all 3 my daughters. they know that can tell dad anything and i wont judge them. i always tell them that i love them no matter what. ever want to see the worst side of me? mess with one of my kids or grandkids.. wink. the facial expression is done well to get this reaction from me. the details is great. the shading is great. the blend of color is great. the creation is balance and eye interesting to the viewer. now you see why im a cartoonist who wants to make people laugh and feel good. wink.. great job overall
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2019
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it's not just the beating. its the constant verbal of disgust and belittling. they like to get up into your face while you plead and they mock you while still hitting you. it doesn't take them much set them off. they like to take objects like a knife, gun or even a bat and use them with a threat just to get off over your facial reaction. funny after its over you get that "im sorry! i promise not to do it again!" of course you know its a lie and all you want to do is just get away. hide in a room or a closet or a hole in the ground. anywhere where you can so can have peace and no more pain. you start to believe that you are what you are called during those beatings. there is no peace in your life and death does look like a good option. now how would know all this? yes majority of abuse cases are done by men towards women. nobody ever thinks of women doing the same to their children. except when they are caught. that woman would blame someone or something else that made them do it. the child would be in so much shock to only communicate what it can. a very small portion of the story. there is no horror movie that can really translate the terror of what that child goes thru. if this happened in the 1960's law enforcement would look more to the male of the house than the female. that woman was my birth mother and child was of course me. gratefully when she did her final beating of me with a softball baseball bat there was witnesses. the courts saved me and awarded me to my great uncle(a marine). took him 10 years to make a human being. i spent the 1st couple years having nightmares of that woman chasing me with that basball bat. i swore that my chidren would never know that horror or would starve and would have a safe place to live. i do invite you to view something here on FAR. do a title search for "cold". it represented me in those hell years. funny how us abuse kids can recognize and find a lil warmth with each other. sorry for this reaction and spousal abuse should always be address but sometimes folks seem to forget what a mother can do to her children. im close with all 3 my daughters. they know that can tell dad anything and i wont judge them. i always tell them that i love them no matter what. ever want to see the worst side of me? mess with one of my kids or grandkids.. wink. the facial expression is done well to get this reaction from me. the details is great. the shading is great. the blend of color is great. the creation is balance and eye interesting to the viewer. now you see why im a cartoonist who wants to make people laugh and feel good. wink.. great job overall
Comment Written 25-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2019
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I am sorry you experienced that too. I am proud to say all seven of my brothers and I are like you, we have broken the chain of abuse. We all tell our kids and grandkids we love them no matter what. We are all perfectly imperfect and we have to forgive mistakes. I have let go of the anger and bitterness my abuse caused but I have never been able to erase it from my memory.
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oh its never going away. i use it to be a tool to want to be a better person in life. im probably one of few males in the state of Florida who divorced and not only received 1100% custody of my kids but suppose to paid child support and alimony.. i never pursued the money. she was the type would try to drag my girls in the middle of it. i couldn't have that.. i got my girls and she got her freedom. i got the best deal.. wink.. she died recently and all my girls were sad but Dad i was here for them. they always make me a proud father. a funny note though.. te in-laws parents are refered to grandfather or granddad.. but me im just called papaw.. eget my hugs every time i see the grandkids.. and i don't have to ask for them.. feels good.. wink
Comment from iPhone7
Such a poignant reminder that there are women who are in very toxic relationships and feel helpless to get out.
I dealt with many women like this when I was a psychotherapist. Helped many to escape to battered women's shelters. There were many that could not/would not leave their situations. Very sad.
Nice work Linda and a great reminder ~ Steve
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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Such a poignant reminder that there are women who are in very toxic relationships and feel helpless to get out.
I dealt with many women like this when I was a psychotherapist. Helped many to escape to battered women's shelters. There were many that could not/would not leave their situations. Very sad.
Nice work Linda and a great reminder ~ Steve
Comment Written 24-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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Thank you. It is sad, especially when children are in the home.
Comment from michiganmike
It does not even resemble "like" let alone "love". A truly deplorable state of affairs, but a fine image that brings the issue to the fore in an effective manor. Best of luck in the contest.
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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It does not even resemble "like" let alone "love". A truly deplorable state of affairs, but a fine image that brings the issue to the fore in an effective manor. Best of luck in the contest.
Comment Written 24-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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Thank you very much.
Comment from Sange
Emotive piece Linda. I am impressed to know you were on the police force. I bet you have many stories.
This is the sad truth many women live with and some don't make it out alive.
The realism on her bruised lip is incredibly detailed.
A great piece that gets people thinking and talking.
Well done ;)
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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Emotive piece Linda. I am impressed to know you were on the police force. I bet you have many stories.
This is the sad truth many women live with and some don't make it out alive.
The realism on her bruised lip is incredibly detailed.
A great piece that gets people thinking and talking.
Well done ;)
Comment Written 24-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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Thank you so much! I did not expect many reviews on this due to the sensitive subject matter. I appreciate you taking the time.
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It's Real and it happens every day all around the world. You gave it a voice
So, those who look the other way are the problem. You see something you day something for humans and animals. ;)
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Thank you.
Comment from Renate-Bertodi
oh my goodness, what images you must have in your head from your police experiences. Well, in the USA you have a police, we do not have one as such. The force was trimmed down to save money, at the same time as we had an massive influx of unsecurity-cleared groups of thousands of immigrants. In my surrounding streets alone , we have a manslaughter +13 counts of theft serb; a murderer /robbery so killed someone/; a two counts of rape from the slovakians and a murderer and rent boy groomer Syrian who is now a college janitor!! Just the few I know personally. You are so lucky, how ever people complain, that you actually have a police force. England is now a criminals' paradise.No security what so ever. This is an excellent idea. Sadly the outward bruises disappear quite quickly and most people don't want to know. The individual is left to cope. I am helping a woman write a book at the moment, who has undergone similar from loved ones. Her family are annoyed with her. No one admits anything! In England, the police give females a third degree and often the woman ends up looking worse than the person who battered her so few women or girls bother to go to them. Our law is utter rubbish about 500 yrs old and for the rich!
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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oh my goodness, what images you must have in your head from your police experiences. Well, in the USA you have a police, we do not have one as such. The force was trimmed down to save money, at the same time as we had an massive influx of unsecurity-cleared groups of thousands of immigrants. In my surrounding streets alone , we have a manslaughter +13 counts of theft serb; a murderer /robbery so killed someone/; a two counts of rape from the slovakians and a murderer and rent boy groomer Syrian who is now a college janitor!! Just the few I know personally. You are so lucky, how ever people complain, that you actually have a police force. England is now a criminals' paradise.No security what so ever. This is an excellent idea. Sadly the outward bruises disappear quite quickly and most people don't want to know. The individual is left to cope. I am helping a woman write a book at the moment, who has undergone similar from loved ones. Her family are annoyed with her. No one admits anything! In England, the police give females a third degree and often the woman ends up looking worse than the person who battered her so few women or girls bother to go to them. Our law is utter rubbish about 500 yrs old and for the rich!
Comment Written 24-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 24-Oct-2019
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Yes it always seems to be so. I always feel for the children who survive such horror as they often grow up to think this is how it should be. Thank you very much. I did not expect to get many reviews on this image as it is disturbing to many.
Comment from Envision
It is sad to know that this happens and that so many of the women feel like they can't get away, or even disclose the situation. You did a very nice job with this. The fat lip is remarkably realistic and the colors of the bruised around the eye look good. I really like the background work too.
reply by the author on 22-Oct-2019
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It is sad to know that this happens and that so many of the women feel like they can't get away, or even disclose the situation. You did a very nice job with this. The fat lip is remarkably realistic and the colors of the bruised around the eye look good. I really like the background work too.
Comment Written 22-Oct-2019
reply by the author on 22-Oct-2019
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Thank you so very much.